13 Reasons Why Suddenly Being Single in Your Late 20’s is Hell

By May 27, 2017Lifestyle

In our current hookup culture, we tend to view dating as just that, hookup, breakup, repeat. But we overlook how difficult it actually is being a single person in your late 20’s after spending a considerable amount of time in a committed relationship, something I recently learned myself, you see, it’s hell because:

 

1. You are officially now the third wheel with all your friends because:

2. All your friends are getting married or…

3. If their not getting married, they are in committed long term relationships or if they’re not then…

4. Your friends are too busy with school or work to spend time with you because…

5. Being an adult in your 20’s means responsibilities and little time for socializing which makes things even more confusing since…

6. You now have responsibilities which make it difficult to plan social gatherings, but  you still have tons of free time which means..

7. Endless boredom. You no longer have someone always there to go do things with, you now have to plan everything months in advance with your friends because of the above mentioned reasons but also…

8. Trying to get back in to the dating scene is now near impossible because…

9. The same places you were used to meeting people at are no longer possible, ( you and I both know at this point you are not gonna be picking up any girls at a local rock show) and your connections to potential dating candidates is now cut off as a result of…

10. Long term relationships, which tend to cut off friendships…All those groups of friends you used to have five years ago? Well they all either moved on because of the above mentioned reasons or you guys fell out of touch because you were more focused on the person you were dating, and to hit them up now feels too awkward… Due to the fact…

11. You’ve honestly forgotten how to socialize. I mean you still hold up your part in social gatherings, but you were so comfortable with the person you were dating that awkard new social gatherings became more rare, you learned to piggy back off each other socially, and now trying to stand on your own socially seems terrifying and confusing… And it gets even worse since…

12. You feel like you’ve let yourself go – years of comfy dating has resulted in less thought about your outward appearance, you were no longer working to improve yourself to convince someone to be interested in you because someone was ALREADY interested in you! And as an added bonus…

13. Your self confidence is now at an all time low because you cant stop thinking about what may have caused your relationship to end, was it your hair? Did you not go to the gym enough? Did you become less funny? interesting? It could be any of these things, but the fact that the person you dated for so long was able to pick up and leave you simple confirms the fact that you were just not good enough, so how can you possibly be good enough for anyone else?

14. Because you are amazing, you are the result of millions of years of evolution, you are the descendant of the stars themselves, you never quit, when life pushes you down, you never stop fighting to get back up, and all these years dating that someone has resulted not in a broken vessel, but in a smarter, and more experienced you, better equipped now with everything you need to make your life a beautiful journey, the world lays in front of you, with infinite possibilities and nothing holding you back, and if in time you find someone new, they will be the luckiest person in the world, because they got you <3

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